HEAL FROM NARCISSITIC ABUSE
It was never, is not, and will never be your fault!
HEAL & THRIVE
The pain, the confusion, & the self doubt ...
You have survived something real.
You were blamed…
when they were the ones hurting you.
You were told you were the problem…
when they refused to take any responsibility.
You were forced to carry their anger, their guilt, their shame —
as if it belonged to you.
And yet
you survived. You’re here. And naming what happened is the first real step to healing.
The shame and guilt you carry — they were placed on you. They are not yours to keep.
The abuse is real
The abuse was (and is) real — even if no one else saw it.
The gaslighting was real — you didn’t “make it up” or “misunderstand.”
The truth Is
You are not the problem. You never were.
You are allowed to heal, to thrive, and to be free.
And you’re already on your way.
"Know that You are So much more than you have ever been told."
Healing Series
🌿 This is the first part of a 10-part healing series.
Please check back soon — the next chapters are on their way, created with care to help you heal, grow, and feel less alone. 💛
The Gaslighting
You were made to feel responsible for their emotions, their moods, their craziness.
You questioned your own memory, your own feelings, even your own reality.
You were made to feel like you were the problem
You learned to tiptoe, to please, to hide your true feelings — just to stay safe.
You lived in fear, constantly scared of what would come.
The Fear
The guilt & Shame
You felt like nothing you did was ever enough.
- The gaslighting, the manipulation, the shame — they shaped how you saw yourself.
- You carried emotions that didn’t belong to you.
The Injustice is Real, You are allowed to Feel anger and sadness
Know that you are:
YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE THAN YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD.
What we experience and have been told growing up is what makes our confidence today.
The confusion that a narcissistic parent creates leaves doubt and fear in us as adults.
You live with The anxiety of of what happens next. Never really trusting yourself, and the belief that it is always your fault.
Know that From this moment forward…
- You are not broken.
- You are Healing
- You are amazing just as you are.
Healing Words
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NEED EXTRA SUPPORT?
Heal with Alex.
Alexandra hokfelt
Certified Harvard trauma specialist
Sometimes we all need a little extra help when we are on our healing journey, I am so grateful that I got that support when I too was on a quest to let go of my past hurt and be free to live the life of my dreams. I hope that My Happiness Space will become yours too. With love, Alexandra